Hey everyone,
Today I am going to share an insight into my childhood and my friendships.
Since I was a kid, I didn’t really have any friends — they were just classmates. It stayed this way till my primary school. But then I entered senior classes, and that’s when I met 4-5 girls who used to bully me — not in a direct way, but under the excuse of “fun.” Although they claimed it was all in good humour, their jokes about my looks and my grades used to hurt me.
But I chose to ignore it because I was afraid that if I stopped talking to them, I would be left out and alone.
Then the pandemic happened. Lockdown came — no friends, no bullies, no pressure on me. And after two years, when I went back to school, I realised that it is never okay to bully your friends, even in the name of fun. So, I completely detached myself from them.
That same year, a new girl joined another section of my class. We used to share the same route home, so we started talking during our way back. It felt like we could actually become friends. And finally, for the first time in my life, I made my first real two friends.
But I guess friendships are just not meant for me. Eventually, I ended up breaking ties with them too.
It’s been six months since our friendship ended, but the memories still dance around in my mind.
But here’s the thing — in these six months, I have become the best version of myself. I discovered who I truly am. I’ve grown more confident. Now, I don’t need anyone else to make me feel worthy or confident. I can sit alone in class. I can eat alone in cafés. I’ve even refined my writing skills and started my Substack. I am no longer in a race to defeat others or please others — I am my first priority. I choose peace over drama. I choose growth over gossip
So, the lesson I want to share is:
Detach yourself from others for a while. No matter how much you love them or how much they love you. I’m not saying to cut them off completely, but prioritise yourself. Explore yourself for the next six months, and you’ll see yourself growing in ways you never imagined.
🔑 It’s not going to be super exciting or the most fun time of your life. You’ll feel burnt out. You’ll wonder why you’re suffering alone. But that pain, that experience, will make you super strong. You’ll gain a confidence so powerful that you’ll be able to face every situation life throws at you.
Just believe in yourself!!
Aastha 💞
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This will resonate with many